time to grow up?
we grow up under the wing of our parents. we respect, love, and listen to them. but as we grow older and find our own identities, we begin to realize that the sage wisdom we had so long trusted in, may not be the path we had wanted.
families are frustrating. people who don’t have a frustrating family, frustrate the rest of us normal people.
my family is frustrating. my youngest sister has only recently discovered maturity. my middle sister is still working on being kind to the people she’s related to. my brother floats in and out, sometimes there, sometimes not. my father can be the coolest guy you know, or the enemy you never want. my mother is sometimes understanding and sometimes rude and closeminded. i am too quiet and on occasion make up for my mousy dismeanor by way of sarcasm. my family is frustrating.
one of the most frustrating things any family does is judge the person you’re dating. my family NEVER thinks anyone is good enough for me and i cannot honestly think of one boyfriend they have ever liked. this constant dispproval affects my relationships in ways they do not understand. currently, my father hates my boyfriend and my mother never really thought he’d be around that long. rebound guy, no need to make the effort. they were wrong. he is still here and i want him to stay. it’s no romeo and juliet family feud, but my family’s uncalled for negative view of my boyfriend is a constant strain on my relationship. he has tried his hardest to make nice, but they manage to shoot him down every time.
i think my boyfriend is amazing. he makes my life happier, he makes me smile and laugh. he treats me well. he is a good man. my family has no rhyme or reason to continue in this fashion.
this is one of the easiest ways to hurt me. trust in my judgment. he is the person i choose. by actively disliking him, all my parents are doing is showing their disrespect for my judgment.
this is the person that i love, whom i feel lucky to have found. my family can either support my decision or refrain from speaking.
who is in my corner?
